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Are you being neglected?

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If you or a child or young person is at risk of significant harm contact the Safeguarding Referral Team Telephone 01782 235100

You can call someone in Stoke-on-Trent to help if you are worried about a child or young person and think they may be a victim of neglect or abuse

  • Advice and Access Team Telephone 01782 232200
  • email
  • Emergency Duty Team - 01782 234234 (After 5pm)

Or you can call a national helpline number (free of charge):-

  • Child line – 0800 1111
  • NSPCC Helpline - 0808 800 5000

Are you being neglected?

 Neglect is when the parent or carer responsible for looking after a child or young person doesn’t give the care that’s needed to keep them well and safe. For example:

  • Not providing enough food or clothes
  • Not keeping the child clean
  • Not making sure the child is safe from harm
  • Not making sure the child goes to medical appointments
  • Not making sure the child is going to school

My parents don’t care about me
Just because you’re old enough to feed and dress yourself, doesn’t mean that you can’t be neglected. If you feel like your parents genuinely don’t care about you, it can affect your life in loads of different ways. More than anything, it can lead to painful feelings of abandonment.

How do I know if I’m being neglected?
It’s probably been going on for years but you’re only realising now you’re older that:

  • You’ve noticed there’s rarely an adult at home 
  • You feel unsafe when they’re around
  • You don’t feel you can talk to them when you’re upset about things
  • Your friends’ parents act differently to yours 
  • You’re allowed to stay out later than your friends, and your parents are less strict – they don’t seem to care where you are or who you are with

Why does neglect happen?
Neglect sometimes happens because parents themselves weren’t raised properly and they haven’t developed the right skills to be a parent. It can also happen when they have other problems, such as an addiction, mental health problems, being a single parent, or when there is a threat of violence at home.

Should I leave home?
It might be tempting to go it alone. But living independently and finding accommodation is tough. After 18, parents have no legal obligation towards their children so they can ask you to leave. If you go against their will it might be harder to return.

 What can I do about it?
Tell a teacher, someone you are close to in your family, a friend or any one you can think of that you trust. Try to describe what’s going on at home and how it makes you feel. Don’t be afraid that you’ll break up your family. Many young people think a social worker will get involved and they’ll be put in to a home (if you’re older than 18, this is impossible as you’re legally an adult). The last thing that anyone wants is for your family to break up – there is lots of support near to where you live which will give you and your family some help. You can also talk to children and young people who have experienced what you are going through.

It can be really hard to tell someone but there are lots of people who can help you or someone you know who is being abused.

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